“What’s done is done.”
– Hilliard MacBeth
“If you don’t make peace with your past, it will keep showing up in your present.”
– Wayne Dyer
We all have a past, but sometimes our past gets in the way of our future. Letting go of hurtful experiences or relationships from our past is hard for most of us. This week’s Weekend Reading List is all about how to make peace with our past so that we can live more fully in the present and embrace our future.
How To Make Peace With Your Past by Jennifer Boykin, Huffington Post
A wise woman once told me that the past was good for two things: to learn from and to enjoy.
In general, I don’t believe we should spend too much time wandering around in the past. Unless you’ve done your clean-up work on it, the past can be a very dangerous neighborhood. We ought not go there unescorted.
Guilt, shame, regret, and sorrow are all indicators that we have unfinished business that we need to address. The most important thing that I hope you realize is that your pain is a gift. It is telling you that you have missed something important.
When thinking of our past, we want to transform more of our memories from “learn from” to “enjoy.” And that is easier to do than you might think.
Make Peace with Your Past: Find the Good and Embrace the Lessons by Lanette Pottle, Tiny Buddha
Daughter of an alcoholic. Welfare recipient. Teenage mother. Non-college attendee. Poor decision maker. Unhealthy relationship participant. Financial disaster. Evictee.
All of these statements described me. They also propelled me into action, transforming me into an over-achieving perfectionist. Yet they still weighed me down because I felt like I had to constantly prove I was better than my past—better than the circumstances from which I came.
It took a lot of effort.
It took a lot of energy.
It was a burden.