Weekend Reading List | 31 March 2017

“What’s done is done.”

– Hilliard MacBeth

“If you don’t make peace with your past, it will keep showing up in your present.” 

– Wayne Dyer

We all have a past, but sometimes our past gets in the way of our future. Letting go of hurtful experiences or relationships from our past is hard for most of us. This week’s Weekend Reading List is all about how to make peace with our past so that we can live more fully in the present and embrace our future.

How To Make Peace With Your Past by Jennifer Boykin, Huffington Post

A wise woman once told me that the past was good for two things: to learn from and to enjoy.

In general, I don’t believe we should spend too much time wandering around in the past. Unless you’ve done your clean-up work on it, the past can be a very dangerous neighborhood. We ought not go there unescorted.

Guilt, shame, regret, and sorrow are all indicators that we have unfinished business that we need to address. The most important thing that I hope you realize is that your pain is a gift. It is telling you that you have missed something important.

When thinking of our past, we want to transform more of our memories from “learn from” to “enjoy.” And that is easier to do than you might think.

Make Peace with Your Past: Find the Good and Embrace the Lessons by Lanette Pottle, Tiny Buddha

Daughter of an alcoholic. Welfare recipient. Teenage mother. Non-college attendee. Poor decision maker. Unhealthy relationship participant. Financial disaster. Evictee.

All of these statements described me. They also propelled me into action, transforming me into an over-achieving perfectionist. Yet they still weighed me down because I felt like I had to constantly prove I was better than my past—better than the circumstances from which I came.

It took a lot of effort.

It took a lot of energy.

It was a burden.

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My Top 7 Favorite Financial Blogs for 2017

This week I have been on vacation and decided to commit a fair amount of my time to reviewing my family’s personal financial plan. One of the things that I have realized this week is that there are a handful of blogs that I frequently go to for inspiration and when I have specific questions about financial planning.

Maybe you are planning to review your financial plan sometime soon and would like a head start, or maybe you need a little inspiration getting started?!

Whichever is the case for you, here are my top seven favorite financial blogs for 2017 plus a few extras.

1. Nerd Wallet
Looking for reviews on credit cards, bank accounts or just about anything else? Nerd Wallet offers up-to-date reviews of just about everything related to personal finance.

2. Radical Personal Finance
Okay, so Radical Personal Finance is actually more of a podcast than a blog, but it’s still one of my favorites. Joshua Sheats offers some of the most intellectual and insightful information of personal finance that you’ll find anywhere. 
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Weekend Reading List | 24 March 2017

“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”

– Albert Einstein

We all make mistakes. This week’s weekend reading list is all about what we can do afterwards.

How Leaders Make It Right When They Blow It by Michael Hyatt

If you’re in a position of leadership, chances are better than good you’re going to blow it with your people sooner or later. It’s like messing things up in your marriage. Don’t ask me how I know this, but it’s inevitable from time to time.

 You’ve Made A Mistake. Now What? by Amy Gallo, HBR.org

First and foremost, it’s critical to be transparent, candid, and own up to the error. Don’t try to blame others. Even if it was a group mistake, acknowledge your role in it. In cases where someone was hurt, issue an apology. However, don’t apologize too much or be defensive. The key is to be action-oriented and focus on the future. How will your misstep be remedied? What will you do differently going forward? 

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