“What’s done is done.”
– Hilliard MacBeth
“If you don’t make peace with your past, it will keep showing up in your present.”
– Wayne Dyer
We all have a past, but sometimes our past gets in the way of our future. Letting go of hurtful experiences or relationships from our past is hard for most of us. This week’s Weekend Reading List is all about how to make peace with our past so that we can live more fully in the present and embrace our future.
How To Make Peace With Your Past by Jennifer Boykin, Huffington Post
A wise woman once told me that the past was good for two things: to learn from and to enjoy.
In general, I don’t believe we should spend too much time wandering around in the past. Unless you’ve done your clean-up work on it, the past can be a very dangerous neighborhood. We ought not go there unescorted.
Guilt, shame, regret, and sorrow are all indicators that we have unfinished business that we need to address. The most important thing that I hope you realize is that your pain is a gift. It is telling you that you have missed something important.
When thinking of our past, we want to transform more of our memories from “learn from” to “enjoy.” And that is easier to do than you might think.
Make Peace with Your Past: Find the Good and Embrace the Lessons by Lanette Pottle, Tiny Buddha
Daughter of an alcoholic. Welfare recipient. Teenage mother. Non-college attendee. Poor decision maker. Unhealthy relationship participant. Financial disaster. Evictee.
All of these statements described me. They also propelled me into action, transforming me into an over-achieving perfectionist. Yet they still weighed me down because I felt like I had to constantly prove I was better than my past—better than the circumstances from which I came.
It took a lot of effort.
It took a lot of energy.
It was a burden.
How to Make Peace with Your Past and Heal Your Life by Luminita Saviuc, Purpose Fairy
There are many things most of us try to keep hidden from ourselves and from those around us, things that caused us so much pain and suffering. Things that are perceived by our minds as being dark, ugly and painful. Things we would rather forget happened. Things we would rather keep buried deep down inside than bring back to the surface. But the truth of the matter is that until we don’t come to terms with what happened, until we don’t cleanse ourselves, until we don’t heal all our past wounds and until we don’t bring light into our once dark world, the past will continue to haunt us. And those painful experiences will continue to have power over us and we’ll continue to be their victims.
How To Make Peace With Your Past: 8 Steps To Letting Go by Edith Moscowitz, Vortex Success
Remembering these past experiences may be helpful to us for a finite amount of time, but reliving them over and over again through our imagination is only nurturing a festering wound that has no benefit to our present life.
You must make peace with your past at some point in your life to truly grow. It starts with making quality choices. Exert the mental awareness and consciously choose only to hold onto the feelings that make you happiest.